Are You Wifey Or Are You Pussy?

Posted on 03. Jan, 2012 by Sickly Cat in Lifestyle

How do you keep a man? The Ratchet answer would be to give him the best ass he’s ever had. But those who think that are single and currently figuring out what dress to wear to the club this weekend. Women who have locked down men, and I’m not talking about 6 months, I’m talking years, those women brought something to the table much more powerful than good sex.

You think you’re pretty, you think you’re smart, I bet you think you’re the most interesting woman on the planet right? But how do men view you? I’m not talking about does he turn and look when you walk by, let’s go deeper than the physical bullshit girls use as a crutch. Does he think you’re smart? Does he find you interesting? Are you classy in his mind or just another basic broad he’s ran through? Take a moment to think about the last dude you were seriously involved with. What did he like most about you? If it was something like “My smile” or “The way I rode it” you have a serious problem. Are you the type of woman he can spend all day talking to and has a connection deeper than the physical attraction or are you simply Pussy? And by Pussy I mean your only value to that man is to satisfy his physical needs. Your job is to make him cum. Pussy isn’t just the hoe or the slut, it’s also the girlfriend who we have no intention of marrying or keeping around past a year. Men love pussy, but we do not marry Pussy. A man may show Pussy off to his friends. He might buy Pussy gifts. Occasionally Pussy gets to come out of the house and get treated to dinner. Pussy even gets pregnant and becomes the Baby Mama. But he NEVER EVER marries Pussy. All men see women as Pussy initially, but after a few conversations we can decide if she’s more.

Are you the type he wifes or are you just the pussy?

Does he take you out? Stop being the drive thru hoe. Yeah he’s on hard times, his pockets aren’t built like that, but guess what? That nigga has money to buy a $59.99 PS3 game; he can scrape up a few dollars to take you to a restaurant that doesn’t have pictures on the menu. Your homgirls are single and fine dining and you’re taking Wing Stop to go, you’re not winning because you have a man, you’re losing because you have a man who keeps your dumb ass on Dracula duty, buried in the crib, only coming out when it’s time to buy condoms and Dutch masters.

Have you met his family? I’m not talking about his boys at the smoke house who he chills with and you happen to tag along. Has his mother laid eyes on you? I remember sneaking this girl into my mother’s house and she caught me. I was pissed because this girl was dumb as a brick, and my mother is nosey. My mother asked how she was doing and the bitch stood there as if she were asked to name elements from the periodic table. For years she joked me about the “retarded chinky eyed girl”. If he’s feeling you, you’ll meet the people who are most important to him. Being in the car and waving “hi” or seeing someone for a minute isn’t an introduction. Stop being smuggled hoe!

What do you talk about? “We spend all night on the phone talking, we have so much in common”, Bitch please. Do you know how many hours I’ve spent on the phone with girls who I couldn’t stand? I’ve stayed up until 6am more times than I can count, and it wasn’t because the girl was interesting, it was because I wanted what she had and was putting in work. Take away the gossip, the TV show talk, and the sexual flirting; what the fuck did I talk to you about? We both like the same colors… wow. We both randomly know Chauncey the stick up boy… incredible. Spending twenty minutes saying “Did You Miss Me” and having a back and forth on who missed who gets played. The number one question a man wants to know, “When can I see you”. Why? Because you’re Pussy and we can’t get Pussy over the phone.

Are You Jeopardy Girl or Family Feud Girl? You’re not the brightest, you can tie your shoe and put your hair into a bun, but that’s where your genius ends. Stop pretending as if you visit CNN.com before you visit mediatakeout.com. It’s okay to be into basic shit, but be able to put together a sentence. If I say, “So why didn’t you like Black Swan” don’t come at me with, “That was some white people shit”. That’s not a movie review, that’s a woman with poor analytical skills who tuned out as soon as she realized this wasn’t a comedy. There are more important things than Chris Brown’s dick. If I wanted to date a woman with the life experience of a 17 year old I would have become a gym teacher or a stepfather. Stop being afraid to ask questions, research things you don’t understand, have a desire to be the best dressed at the party and the most interesting.

If a man won’t commit then he sees you as Pussy. You were in a relationship for 3 months, and he started acting funny… Did you really break up with him or did he sabotage the relationship after your Pussy expired? Yes, pussy has an expiration date. It expires exactly 3-4 months after we first hit it. The more you smash the faster it expires. It’s not milk, you can continue to hit pussy after it’s long expired, people are married and love hitting expired pussy, it still feels good. But it will never be at the height it was when it was considered new pussy. As a wise man once said, “There’s no pussy like new pussy, and that’s how a nigga feel”. Being extra freaky or dating during the winter months may buy you an extra two months of that new pussy smell, but that’s it. No matter If it lasts 4 months or 6 months, the man will show signs of cabin fever because you don’t have anything real that keeps him tied to you. This man didn’t suddenly become an asshole, that’s not the real reason you’re arguing after months of lovey-dovey shit, he’s tired of your pussy and he’s ready to move on to the next girl because you don’t stimulate him mentally. Sure he may come back to hit it after the relationship is over, but no junkie stops cold turkey. The point is he’s now only using you for Pussy, and that reaffirms that from the jump he saw you as Pussy never wifey! There is no such thing as Marry Me Pussy. No matter how good you think your shot is, there has yet to be a vagina built that can make a man throw a ring on it. Personality, charm, charisma > Pussy. If you want to keep a man, not just have someone to roll around in the bed and eat lemon pepper strips with, look in the mirror and ask, “Would I want me?” It’s like a job interview, the strengths are obvious and often times exaggerated. The weaknesses, those are hard to figure out, it’s not because you don’t have any, it’s because we rarely take a serious look at what’s wrong with us. Other than stupidity which we can’t really cure, there are several things that hold men back from promoting women, but here are my top two,

Are You Boring: No one wants a girl who sits around saying “I’m bored”? If you’re a bored female, that means you are boring. I don’t care how pretty you are I don’t want to waste my time with a boring chick who always needs to be entertained by the most basic shit. I’m bored my phone’s not ringing today. I’m bored nobody’s texting me. I’m bored nothing’s on TV. Guess what? I’m bored after fucking you for a month because all you do is seek attention. Your coochie may be wet, but your personality is dry! There are people that make things happen and there are people who complain that nothing’s happening. Which are you?

Are You Loyal: Yeah yeah you would never cheat physically, but who do you talk to besides him? Who do you flirt with besides him? Men know when a female has an active phonebook. Do you think he’s going to see you as more than a good time girl if you have dudes blowing up your phone? He can say, “cut every other dude off for me” but let’s be realistic, you have excuses to why you talk to these niggas, he’s your brother, he’s your best male friend, you work with him… the list goes on. If you’re not willing to let go of your backup dick then why should he upgrade you from the Pussy to the potential wifey?

If you are a girl who’s tired of the dating game and want something deeper than 9 inches and a text message, then it’s time to get serious and change the way men view you. When you go out on dates have something to say, push the conversation in directions you haven’t taken it before. Show him that you aren’t like the rest of these girls out here; make him feel as if you’re the type of woman he can raise children with… not drop children in. They say that beside every great man there is a great woman. History doesn’t remember women who could do it with no hands; they remember women who could do it with their brains. Stop Being Pussy, that’s how you keep a man.

Source: Black Girls Are Easy

Tags: marriage, Relationships, Sex

Khayree

althought the language was a
bit lewd i do agree with most of this. I mean up until i have met the
woman I am with now I dated women in which I lost interest with very
fast. to me if you can’t stimulate me mentally then I have kno need for
you and i am far from that “all about the coochie smash that ass” type
…..great article…keep em comin!!!
Afiya

My only issue with the
article is that it assumes that the man is the quintessential being to
which all standards of boring, interesting, marriage material, and
intellect are measured against. I mean, I get the point that the female
reader should gain the most in takeaway. But what if the depth of the
man is that he only wants the p relationship because he doesn’t get that
there is more to life than the p? Okay, maybe I’ve talked myself
through it…he still won’t marry the p because somewhere within
himself, he’ll remain unfulfilled until he meets wifey. Okay, I can
roll with it!
Toiah

SICKLY
CAT! You know I hate articles like this… First of all NO woman can keep
a man unless he wants to be kept. Let’s start there… I am tired of
these articles that man/woman bash and place blame rather than telling
the truth… And the truth is this: If a
person is not ready to marry or settle down, they will NOT. Faithfulness
is a choice you make every day. Either you will be disciplined and
stick to your commitments or you won’t. Of course we should
all be interesting, intelligent, loyal and GOOD people. But that goes
for MEN and WOMEN. We both have a responsibility to treat each other
with respect, security, love and loyalty, if you can’t do that… Then
don’t get into a relationship and please do not get married.
Lastly, men marry p***y every day all day long and REGRET it months
later… I’ve seen it happen. This goes for everyone: Looks, money, and
status may go away… but a great personality and a righteous & loving
spirit will always remain.
Toiah

When is someobody going to
write an article about men having more to offer than d**k and dinner?
Women are not impressed. We outnumber black men in getting our degrees
and in our net worth… But WE are not interesting? Please. I’m getting
very annoyed!!
Toiah

Afiya… Being unfulfilled is
not an excuse to go running up in random women and leaving bleeding
hearts along the way. I am sick of it… If you don’t love, respect, or
even like her…. DO NOT SLEEP with her. She is someone’s mother,
sister, daughter and friend…
Toiah

Women are NOT CUM RECEPTACLES for men to dump their lust into… Vulgar but so is this dumb ass article!
Brandon

LOL, gotta disagree with you
there pimpin. The new age black man aint really about shit, to the point
where it is embarrassing. I’d say most black women between the ages of
18 and 35 are outdoing black men in the same age bracket, by far. Sad,
but true.
Leslie

i thought the article was
interesting and since i know plenty do-lows who think the way in which
the female perspective spoke i took the liberty of rapid fire
forwarding. i feel toiahs frustration and i appreciate the forum and
food for thought.
Belinda

I guess I’m neither……lol
Tiffani

I don’t like that term “wifey” ugh, I am neither.
Michelle

Ladies if I may ask what is the description of neither – exactly? I’m just curious…
Belinda

What I meant by neither was
that I’m not giving up the goods nor have I been able to get a man to be
committed enough to put a ring on it. I’m a young lady with old school
values living in LA….smh! I wonder if there are any good men left in
this city
D-Nelly

I love p*ssy
Lena

The appalling part of it all
is that the article suggests women only fall into 2 categories (ho or
wifey). It’s ridiculous…and it suggests we don’t have a choice and
its all up to how the guy views us. We are more complex than that and
deserve a better perspective. This is based on pop media portrayals,
which the avg woman is not.
Brittney

Everything that Lena just
said. And also: I AM NOT DEFINED BY THE CONSTRAINTS OF DOMESTICITY AND
SEXUALITY. I AM A PERSON WITH FEELINGS, DAMN IT!
http://www.SicklyCat.com JCB3

Women need to understand that no matter how ‘complex’ you are, you fit into one of a few categories for men.
Jewel

It works in the reverse too, Are you Hubby or Are You Dick…?
Dayana

Oh wow! This is very much
assuming that every man referred to in this article is a pretty
spectacular catch. I agree that woman should expect more, respect
themselves more, find things of high interest to them and always seek to
feed their minds but it does very much
go both ways. Men need to also seek to be of equal value and elevate
the caliber of women they chase. However, I have to say that while
vulgar, the article was very entertaining and funny. LOL. It’s almost damming to admit (and, yes
embarrassing) that Kyle and I are busting up at some of these phrases…
“Dracula status” “Drive by hoe”. OMG. I had to let him read it! So
wrong!
T.Lemons

Ladies if you are looking for
a relationship with a man that isn’t necessarily the relationship
type…start with a real friendship with him….otherwise you may end up
straight p$$$y…
Brittney

Well, then, that just settles the long standing debate: Are men sexist assholes? Answer? Yes.
Lena

Whatever, John. Not just
those 2 and if that’s the case “those men” are more simple minded than
what I thought could be possible or making up for some inferiority of
their own. We have to agree to disagree at this point.
Jerome

Men aren’t sexist assholes.
Not all of them anyway. Mr. Byrd just appears to have a particularly
narrow view of them. And this article is beyond dumb.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1328761304 Xavier Finch

When you write that blog…. I want to read it… And we’ll see what insight you have on the subject…
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1328761304 Xavier Finch

how bout you write it??? I’m just waitin for a woman to step up and tackle to subject from a real, almost non-biased, perspective..
http://www.SicklyCat.com JCB3

LMAO at ‘almost non-biased’! Women are incapable of being non-biased. Hilarious.
Dhopson24

Lets face it we all forever will love dick and pussy.This gives us more to evaluate about ourselfs!!
keepin it real

Although the article did mention much about pu$$y. . .the underlying point of the article indicated that basically you have to have “substance” and bring more to the table if you want a man to take you seriously if your trying to take it to the next level with him. . . not just think that good looks, pus$$y, and being simple minded will get you noticed. However, realizing that YES, this still happens and is acceptable to SOME men, it doesnt last forever and we all know how that ends. . . ..

The author is just keeping it real and sometimes a.) its too much for some women to hear b.) some women get hostile and angry because they have been th pu$$y too many times c.) some people(i.e. women)READ into it too much and wanna put their own spin on it when instead of just hearing the TRUTH from a males perspective. (you ask and HE shall tell). . . . We really do think differently and are from two different worlds when it comes to our thinking perspectives. . . .How can you be mad at someone for just keeping it real and telling the truth. . . .
Freya

Toiah, I don’t disagree with you at all!! and we are waiting for YOU to
write the article on men having more to offer than dick and dinner!!! that said, while i do think the article is harsh and aimed at women (as many of these articles
are), the author definitely has good points. there are many women out
there who fit this description. i’m not so sure that the author is
blaming women as much as he is giving women advice about something. i
once heard a man make a comparison with spades. he said that if pussy
is the big joker, you may win a few hands with it, but you can’t win the
whole game. i think that’s very true. you are likely offended b/c you
have more to offer than that, and it seems to be an indictment on all
single women. nothing could be further from the truth. the author is
not talking to you. being single doesn’t automatically make you pussy
… he’s talking to the women who think the sum of who they are lies in
their vaginas. i hate to tell ya, but there are a LOT of them out
there!!!
LauraM

Great article ,brought me much entertainment! Haha!!
Erika

man that surely was
entertainment but I need for some of these men to understand whyyyy they
pick some women solely based on pussy n end up stuck witn miserable
pussy! I dont get that all the complaints about how she aint shit blah
blah blah I mean what is it that keeps a
mans mind so shallow like whats wrong with you man lol nobody is
perfect its all about who’s perfect for you the main problem is not
knowing who we share our souls with these men think like demons.‎9 outta 10 the man is not
upfront from the beginning in stating that he only wants sex…..usually
he lies n misleads to get the pussy then he drops the I don’t wanna
committed relationship banner on her…thats a sorry ass nigga!
Philipray

You can complain but yet you will do nothing about it. You don’t even have enough intrestest to do it yourself.
Sean

This is the one of the wisest ignorant shit i’ve read about relationships
Tash

Also Toiah and Brandon, don’t
confuse having a college degree with being smart or interesting. I can
count many a stupid person whose degree or degrees would suggest they
should at least be book smart where even that turns out to be untrue.
Guest

Although, this article is very entertaining LOL, it’s sad that black men are so shallow! Maybe if they spent more time thinking about more ways to get money, or change the world…and not let “pussy” consume their lives, perhaps more black me would be married! I’m just saying….
Spellchecc

Men don’t care about your DEGREE’s! Are you kidding me? I hope you don’t have a degree because that was dumb as hell!
Spellchecc

Outdoing black men in what? Getting degree’s? You have to be freaking kidding me “B”. A big house, good job, money to shop, undergraduate and graduate, as well as professional degrees etc etc etc and no one to share it with. WORTHLESS!
RAX

fuck these comments this is the realist article that i’ve ever read. because this is where we at in society
RAX

CALM DOWN SISTAH YOU MAKING A VALID POINT, BUT THIS ARTICLE IS JUST AS VALID. EVERYTHING YOU THROWIN IS LEFT FOR A WHOLE OTHER TOPIC IT DOESNT MATCH THE MESSAGE THAT WAS BEING DEPICTED IN THIS LINK SO CHILL
Nickeymcc317

II would assume that every one taking part in this discussion is ‘GROWN’ and understand as grown people we most often take part in consentual sex..meaning both parties agree to laying down with one another! Rather your just ‘pussy’ or ‘dick’ you should be grown enough by now to understand where you stand in a ‘relationship’ with some one! I was married and I have his child..I consider myself a great Woman and a great person but that didn’t keep him from doing or being him! I refuse to take the blame for his actions..all I can do is get over our breakup and move on! Every body is grown and is responsible for their own actions so with tha said can we focus on other issues in life like raising these children that are products of us just being ‘pussy or ‘dick’!
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ACDASY4MWKUA7ESGZRKIOWBHRM Diane Hobson

Right on Toaih. Most of these idiot men don’t know how to keep a good woman. We can also question men if they are dick or husband. Its bad enough there aren’t hardly any good or worthy men for real relationships
as it is.
Toiahg357

Where’s your wife?
Jo-Nate

Belinda, good for you! However, the author’s point was about personality because they feel too many women are focused on their outward appeal (temporary) vs. their inward character (lasting)
Jo-Nate

A lot of men can co-sign with this article in general. Folk can blame it on media, or whatever, but we’re seeing a lot more women focused on their ass than class….
Jo-Nate

Ideal, but not real if the guy think she has potential, their having sex, and over time he’s not interested…
Deb

Ooooo Lawd this was RAW!! and I agree with so many points. However, as stated below “no woman can keep a man unless he wants to be kepted”. There are many women, including myself, who keep up with current events, read books, thinks about interesting topics that could be discussed, cook, clean, play dominoes, watch a game and yet men will still view us as “pussy”—even if they get to know us and are fully aware that we are wifey material, will come with some lame excuses as to why..they can’t be married. And if he does marry there is NO guarantee he will not stray. I speak from experience…was married, had all of the above, and NEVER HAD A HEADACHE…didn’t keep him from tappin’ da azz of the next woman.

There is a lot of truth written in the article and I don’t take it personal because I know who I am and bring to the table, however, this article can go both ways…because I’ve met a few of the dumb one’s out there..who think they can win you over with their pockets…SMH I’m cool.

I have to admit I appreciate articles of this nature because it at least keeps us engaged … however, we need to get past the talking AT each other and learn to talk TO one another….it’s my hope one day that articles can be RAW and REAL without annihilation of either sex.
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Did you read the rebuttal?
Byron

Love this.
Sasha

So Why we gotta be Hoes??? SMH

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